Afraid of what you will hear?

• No one likes negative feedback.
• We differ only in how well we can take it in and use it.
• Try asking yourself: ''What exactly am I afraid of?''
• That some specific weakness will come to light?
• That you're not really competent at all, just fooling people?
• Could you really have got where you are if this were true?
• What is the worst that could happen?
• How bad is that on a scale of 1 to 10?
• Can you not think of lots of worse things that could happen?
• Are you not at least as competent as most of your colleagues?
• Can you think of some colleagues who can't do what you can do?
• Do you feel you have to be perfect or nothing?
• How reasonable are the standards you set yourself?
• Can you modify the demands you make of yourself?
• Is it not acceptable to you to be just OK, good enough?
• Why are you driving yourself to be perfect?
• What benefits do you see of getting feedback?
• Would it not at least eliminate the anxiety of not knowing?
• Perhaps it is not as bad as you think.
• If you are being driven by standards set by your parents, why are you still letting them run your life?
• Would not more balanced standards of your own choosing give you a greater sense of control over your actions and self worth?
• How could you engineer feedback to get it in palatable doses?
• Does it make sense to give your customers more than they pay for?
• How effective is the investment of your time and resources if your costs are higher than your profits?
• What would be a more acceptable return?
• How well are you managing yourself if you invest more than you get in return?