Becoming less annoying to others

• Do you annoy only certain people?
• Does your style clash only with theirs?
• Have you examined style differences between yourself and others?
• Or do you annoy people regardless of style differences?
• What are the main ways in which you annoy people?

• All show a lack of respect for the needs, feelings and rights of others.
• Attacking others is sometimes a sign of feeling bad about ourselves.
• To change , first think about your own interests.
• What are you gaining by your actions?
• What might you be losing?
• Any gains are likely to be short term.
• They might give you begrudged compliance but no long term loyalty.
• You can't coerce people to support you.
• What benefits would there be for you of modifying your style?
• How much do you need a fuller level of commitment from others to achieve your personal goals?
• What motivates you to treat people as you do? Any of the following?

• What can you do to address your own personal feelings?
• How can you keep them from affecting your work performance?
• Pinpointing what's really bothering you is a good first step.
• If there are circumstances you can't change, can you change how you let them affect you?
• A short fuse is sometimes a sign of ongoing frustration within ourselves. Little things then easily trigger an overly strong reaction.
• What are your sources of frustration and how can you remove them?
• What can you do to relax and take things a bit easier?
• Are you taking yourself too seriously? Can you laugh at yourself?
• What can you do to have more fun at work?