Making people feel good

• Do you need to see making people feel good as something extra you have to do over and above getting your job done?
• Could it be the way you do your job?
• What is it about the way you work with people that upsets them?
• How could working differently get your job done and make people feel good?
• It's not a matter of taking time out to cuddle people.
• It's how you show trust, respect and sensitivity while you're doing your job.
• Think about your choice of words, tone of voice and body language.
• Are you putting people down, being unecessarily harsh, throwing your weight around excessively?
• Do you talk over people and not listen to what they have to say?
• Do you reject their input in a manner that makes them feel stupid?
• Could your jokes be taken as insults?

What could you do differently?

• How do people speak to you when they are showing you respect?
• Can you adopt the same tone and language with others?
• Can you show people respect without feeling that you are showing them signs of weakness on your part?
• When a colleague or boss shows you respect, do you see them as weak?
• If you worry about showing weakness, your self esteem might be low.
• To raise your self esteem, focus on your strengths and the things you do well.
• Stop beating yourself for things that do not go so well.
• You will only feel better about yourself when you consistently talk to yourself in more positive language.
• If you are unsure of your strengths, seek feedback or a skills assessment.
• Chances are you are your own worst enemy and you probably have more to offer than you are giving yourself credit for.
• A more positive approach should help you realize your full potential.