Yelling at people?

Why do you yell at people?

1. I just generally feel angry and frustrated so I have a low threshold for the stupid things people are always doing.
2. I find that yelling is the only way I can get any action around here.

If number 1 then what can you do to change the way you feel?

• Make a list of the personal factors that make you generally angry.
• Which of these factors can you do something about?
• Can you change your attitude towards those you can't alter?
• Can you convince yourself that you have a choice about how you feel?
• Nothing can literally make you feel anything if you make up your mind to feel differently about it.
• How do you talk to yourself? Are you constantly feeding yourself negative messages? If so see own worst enemy.
• When was the last time you said anything nice to yourself?
• Or counted up all the things you have to feel good about?

If number 2 then what is your management style?

• Are you on the bossy side generally?
• Do you feel a need to make sure you are in charge?
• Do you give firm direction and make most of the decisions?
• Is it possible that your style demotivates people, hence making you feel that you have to yell at them to get them to move?
• Telling and yelling are just different degrees on the same scale.
• Telling sets the stage for yelling because telling is de-motivating.

What can you do to change your style?

• Give others more responsibility.
• Do more asking, less telling. See listening.
• Not begging, but asking how they would approach a task.
• Use more praise, less criticism.
• Listen more.
• Show more respect.
• Reward exceptional performance in a public manner.
• Correct underperformance in private.
• Find out what others want out of their jobs and careers.
• Show them how taking more responsibility can get them there.